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Jonathan Alpert

Psychotherapist | Author


Jonathan Alpert on CNN Talking about the Germanwings Tragedy

Here’s me on CNN talking about the Germanwings tragedy:

Did You Marry a Mamma’s Boy?

Let’s say you’re recently married, just moved in together, have a great relationship, and are excited to start a life together with your husband. All is great except for one thing: Whenever there’s an issue between you and your mother-in-law, your husband refuses to stand up for you, and it sends a message that he cares more about his mother than he does about you. How can you deal with it? Click here to read the entire column.

3 Ways to Gain Control of Any Situation

When I was a kid, I was ice skating and remember going really fast. Next thing I recall I was being tended to in the changing room by my sister and employees of the skating center. Apparently I had been going so fast that I lost control, hit my head, and knocked myself unconscious. That incident rendered me fearful of the ice. Fast forward to 2012 when I was discussing this incident with 1994 Olympic speed skating Gold medalist Dan Jansen. He told me, “throw a helmet on and get back out on that ice.” His advice was spot on. Click here to read the entire column.

Being Single Isn’t a Disease So Stop Treating It Like It Is

A common affliction that has been plaguing women and men for decades, mostly women, has been on the rise. Those afflicted experience embarrassment, shame, and sadness. The worse they feel, the more the disease is exacerbated. There are clinics and support groups, countless books and specialists, and even reality shows to tackle the problem.
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How to Spot and Disarm a Narcissist

How often have you met someone new and been won over by their charm? Or perhaps there’s a rising star at work who seems to do everything right and knows just what to say, never missing a beat in his or her flawlessness. Or maybe you have a friend who always seems to get his or her needs met through you, yet always manages to find a way to make you feel special. Read entire Huffington Post article here.

How to Apologize and Get it Right

With the new year underway, many people might see it as a time to move forward by improving their relationships, both professional and romantic. It’s a good time to hit the reset button and take that step towards resolving past conflict. Crucial to accomplishing this is to make amends and issue an apology for wrongdoings. As a psychotherapist and executive coach, I help clients who get into trouble — whether with their spouse or the public. There’s a right way to issue an apology, and of course, a wrong way. Click here to read entire column.

10 Powerfully Simple Ways to Kick Start Your Weight Loss

2015 is here and if you’re like a lot of people, you’ve probably set your sights on losing weight and getting into the best shape of your life. Maybe you’ve even told yourself the same thing in years past and picked up the latest diet book and put into action whatever is recommended, no matter how preposterous the suggestion was. Read the entire Huffington Post column here.

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6 Ways to Get Your Partner to Share the Chores

“My boyfriend and I moved in together a few months ago. We’ve been together for two years and thought we were ready. We get along great in every way, but there’s one small problem that’s developed: I can’t get him to help out around the apartment and do chores. He isn’t lazy, but he just doesn’t move a finger to help. I get on his case and find myself yelling at him, calling him a slob. I’ve even withheld sex.The dynamic seems to have changed and our relationship is suffering. This leads to major fights and is ruining our relationship. What should I do?”  Read the answer here.

How to Listen Like a Pro

Think of someone who makes you feel comfortable and relaxed no matter how chaotic your life may be. Someone who makes you feel that all is right with the world even if it may be crashing down in front of you. When you need comfort, who do you turn to? My guess is whoever this person, he or she possesses one vitally important trait: good listening skills. Being a good listener can be the difference that makes the difference in so many areas in life.  Read the entire Huffington Post column here.