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Jonathan Alpert on The Today Show – Is Stress Contagious?

Huffington Post: Defeating the Workplace Bully

According to the American Psychological Association (APA), a national survey by the Workplace Bullying Institute indicated that 35 percent of American adults reported that they have experienced bullying behaviors at work and another 15 percent said they have witnessed others being bullied. My practice certainly reflects this. Clients report difficult situations with a colleague as magnifying their stress. These vicious work relationships, if left unchecked, can spiral out of control and lead to tremendous tension, wreaking havoc on a person that goes beyond their work life. By taking a few steps you can learn to squelch such relationships you might have with a colleague. Read the entire column here.

Jonathan Alpert on the Today Show

I’ll be on The Today Show Wednesday April 2nd @ 10:13 for a segment on stress.

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Today Show

“Honey, We Need to Talk” – Facing The Dreaded STD Conversation

As we approach National STD Awareness Month in April, it’s important to address what for many people can be a hugely anxiety-provoking conversation: speaking to their partner about sexually-transmitted diseases. Let’s say you meet someone, are getting to know the person, and intimacy is starting to develop. How do you have that awkwardly dreadful talk? Read the entire column here.

Huffington Post: The Do’s and Dont’s of Getting Past a Break Up

Relationships are a big social experiment. Think about it: Two people meet by a variety of circumstances, whether that be in real life or online, and the hope is that things stick. For most, the desire is to forge a bond and a lasting relationship. The reality, though, is much different: More people fail than succeed in this endeavor. Read entire Huffpost Column here.

Jonathan Alpert: The Habits of Happy People

Most people have something that gnaws at them at night, a problem or unrealized dream somewhere in their lives that causes them to feel incomplete, dissatisfied and unhappy. For them, happiness feels unachievable and elusive. However, addressing and conquering their fears helps them to achieve what they once thought was impossible and this leads to the awareness that happiness is within closer reach and can be obtained by making some simple changes. Click here to read the entire column.

Inside the Mind of the Female Cheater

After my recent Huffington Post column, 10 Signs He’s Cheating I received countless emails from people wanting to know why women cheat. According to these emails, there seems to be a mystery as to what would motivate a woman to cheat. Many of the men I see whose wives cheated are left blindsided and stunned. They often say, “I married a good girl, how could she have cheated?” Or, “My wife isn’t the type to cheat”. The fact is, they do cheat and it is more common than most people think. In my practice there’s definitely an upswing of women and couples where cheating is the issue. The question arises, is there more cheating amongst women or is it just more talked about now? Perhaps a little of both. Whatever the case, knowing the characteristics of the cheater and gaining insight into her mind can shed some light on the topic. Based on the many female cheaters I’ve seen over the years, I’ve come to identify several common traits:

  • She loves sex and wants more than one partner. Yes, women can have insatiable sex drives and crave variety too and as such, do what they need to do to satisfy it.
  • Her emotional needs are not being met at home and she feels isolated and alone. Perhaps her husband works a lot or he is just emotionally distant. I often hear, “He’s just never available”, “My husband feels like a stranger to me” or “I feel unloved” when women talk about why they cheated.
  • Her sexual needs are not being met at home. What was once an active sex life may now be infrequent or non-existent. Female cheaters say to me, “he made me feel sexy again” when describing their lover. Or, “I feel so alive”. Not surprising given how vital our sexuality is to our sense of self. People will do what they have to do to get their sexual needs met.
  • She has lots of close male friends. Most affairs begin as friendship with platonic friends. Unlike males, women are less likely to step

Jonathan Alpert: 10 Signs He’s Cheating

There’s no doubt that cheating is on the rise. The number of cheaters and victims of cheating I’m seeing is twofold compared to just a few years ago. If this is any indication of the national trend, then it’s an epidemic of sorts. Are more people cheating? Quite possibly. Read entire column here.

Jonathan Alpert: 6 Ways to Defeat Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)

The winter of 2014 has not only strained snow removal budgets and school systems, but also peoples’ moods. Because of this, I, as a psychotherapist in the Northern Hemisphere of the U.S. have seen an influx of patients for symptoms of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). The winter of 2014 has not only strained snow removal budgets and school systems, but also peoples’ moods. Because of this, I, as a psychotherapist in the Northern Hemisphere of the U.S. have seen an influx of patients for symptoms of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). Read the entire Huffington Post column here.