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Jonathan Alpert

Psychotherapist | Author


7 Ways to Stay Sane this Thanksgiving

As we approach Thanksgiving, family dramas and conflicts that have been kept at bay will inevitably resurface and issues will be stirred up. This is the time of the year when we feel obligated to see people we wouldn’t normally choose to see the other 364 days of the year. As such, I get an influx of patients consulting me for stress directly related to the holiday. This stress can have a profound impact on one’s health, mental well-being, and ultimately their work performance. Click here to read the entire column.

8 Ways to Stay Strong in the Wake of the Paris Terror Attacks

In the wake of the horrific and outrageous terrorism attacks in Paris this past weekend, people around the world, and most especially in Paris, are on high alert and feeling devastatingly anxious. Parisians certainly must not feel too different from how millions felt after the September 11, 2001 attacks in the U.S. Although we are now 15 years post-911, terror is still very much a part of our society and only becoming more of a concern as hatred grows. Click here to read the entire column.

7 Ways to Say “No” Without Feeling Guilty

I recently received an email from an acquaintance asking if he could stay with me while visiting New York. Mind you, this was someone who I wasn’t very close to and he had the means to book a hotel. I simply did not feel comfortable having him stay. I had three options: 1.) I could say yes because I felt bad saying no and end up feeling miserable for saying yes 2.) I could say no and maybe feel bad about saying it. 3.) I could say no and not feel bad about saying it. I went with option three.

You might wonder how do you say no and not feel bad about it. Click here to the entire column.

Why People Cheat

Cheating is pervasive. I’ve seen it with clients over the years and it is a steady presence in the news cycle. We see it with professional athletes who break rules and alter air pressure in footballs or use illegal performance enhancing drugs. Click here to read the entire column.

How You Can Make the Impossible Possible

In the early 1950s, many people believed that it was impossible for humans to run a mile in under four minutes. Runners had been trying to break the four-minute barrier since the late 1800s. The world’s top coaches and most gifted athletes had been trying to go sub-4:00 for years. They were dedicated, and they’d tried all sorts of training plans, but the milestone was believed to be out of reach-that the human body just couldn’t go that fast. Click here to read the entire column.

Conquer Your Fear of Flying in 6 Easy Steps

If you’re like many of my clients, you fly a lot for business. Your travels may take you from coast to coast, and even around the world, and you may feel that you spend more time in terminals than you do at home. Although these folks fly with ease, they didn’t always. Many used to have debilitating and gut-wrenching anxiety and panic attacks and never thought they’d be able to fly without getting sick or relying heavily on anti-anxiety medications. With the right treatment though, they conquered their fear. Read entire column here.

7 Steps to Stress-Free Sunday Nights

Inevitably on Monday mornings I have messages on my office phone that were left for me on Sunday evening or night-more so than any other day of the week. Why? The answer is simple: People stress out on Sunday nights more than any of the other six nights.  Read the entire column here.

8 Ways to Become a Superstar at Your New Job

Congratulations! You’ve finally landed your dream job. You’ve attended networking events, reached out to key people via Linkedin, sent out your resume, survived grueling interviews, negotiated your salary and here you sit–a new employee. You want to back up everything you said during the interview and prove to the hiring managers that they made a good decision to bring you on board. You might be willing to do just about anything to make that happen.

Well, not so fast. There are critical things that you should do during the first 90 days, and there are things that you shouldn’t do.  Click here to read the entire column.

7 Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Start Getting Stuff Done

If you’re like many of my clients prior to them seeing me, you might have a hard time getting started with projects and completing tasks. Maybe you do everything but what you need to be doing. Perhaps you watch TV instead of cleaning your house. You socialize instead of finishing a work project, or surf the Internet instead of writing that business plan you’ve been meaning to do for the longest time. Read entire column here.

8 Highly Effective Steps to Apologize and Get it Right

“I am sorry.”

Three simple words, yet they can be so hard to say, and so very powerful. These words, if said properly, can be the first step in making amends, correcting wrongdoings, and gaining back trust. Click here to read the entire column.