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Jonathan Alpert

Psychotherapist | Author

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How to Boldly Face Your Fear of Criticism

Many of my clients deal with fear of criticism. I see it in several aspects of their lives. At work, people fear criticism from their managers and colleagues so they keep quiet and don’t share their opinions. They play it safe. At home, people fear that they’ll be criticized by their spouse or partner so they don’t speak their mind. They back down when they sense conflict. In friendships people often don’t have boundaries because they fear doing so will lead to criticism or they will be viewed as selfish. Click here to read my entire Inc.com column.

5 Painless Ways to Kick the Caffeine Habit

Ah, coffee… even the aroma can make people feel satisfied, complete, at peace, and frankly, as though all is right in the world… me included.  The explanation is simple: It contains the most widely used stimulant in the world.  Click here to read the entire column.

Say Goodbye to the Bully at Work in 9 Steps

According to an American Psychological Association (APA) poll, three-quarters of those surveyed list work issues as the source of the most stress in their life. My practice certainly reflects this. More specifically, clients report difficult situations with a colleague as magnifying their stress.  Click here to read the entire column.

8 Ways to Unleash Your Inner Confidence

For most people, confidence is crucial to achieving success. Without it most will flounder, despite their talents or strength. I know highly talented musicians, athletes, and business people who because they lack confidence, don’t land the record deal, win their race, or start the business they’ve been dreaming of for years.  Read the entire column here.

Huffpost: 8 Powerful Ways to Make Habits Stick

Many of my clients see me because they want to change. There’s something in their lives that is so routine, yet so undesirable or unhealthy. Maybe it’s a poor diet, dating toxic men or women or laziness. They seek change, yet it eludes them. Most behaviors, good and bad, become automatic or habituated over time. Click here to read the entire column.

My Inc. Column: How to Kick the Caffeine Habit in 5 Easy Steps

Ah, coffee. Even the aroma can make people feel satisfied, complete, at peace, and frankly, as though all is right in the world. Me included.

The explanation is simple: It contains the most widely used stimulant in the world. According to the National Institute of Health, in Western society, at least 80 percent of the adult population consumes caffeine in amounts large enough to have an effect on the brain. This effect is powerful. Read the entire column here.

7 Ways to Maximize Your Summer Without Stressing Yourself Out

Summer is finally here after what for many people was a long and difficult winter. Temperatures are warm at last, the sun is shining bright, and air conditioners are running full speed. The time is now to enjoy the summer and strike the right balance between relaxation and rejuvenation. Read the entire Inc. column here.

Does Sex Addiction Even Exist?

In this age of celebrities and politicians coming forward with their claims of sex addiction following a cheating incident, I’m often asked whether sex addiction even really exists. My answer is both yes and no. According to the medical community, more specifically, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), it doesn’t exist. That aside, and looking purely at patterns of behavior and what’s going on inside the person’s head, well, that’s a different story. Click here to read the entire column.

8 Powerful Ways to Make Habits Stick

Many of my clients see me because they want to change. There’s something in their lives that is so routine, yet so undesirable or unhealthy. Maybe it’s a poor diet, dating toxic men or women, or laziness. They seek change, yet it eludes them. Read my entire Inc. column here.

Why You Should Talk to Strangers

I’ll be penning a column for Inc.com.
Here’s my first column:
Last week I was walking down a busy Manhattan street. At a crossing while waiting for the walk signal I gently turned to the woman next to me who was wearing a colorful and interesting outfit, smiled, and here’s how the conversation went:

Me: “I like your outfit. It’s good to see people wearing color as we get into Spring”.
Woman: (She didn’t say a thing verbally but gave me a look as if to say): “Why are you talking to me?! If you come any closer I’ll kill you.”
Me: “Geez, sorry to bother you. You know, it’s actually OK to be friendly to strangers.”
Woman: “F. U. A- hole.”
Click here to read the entire Inc. column.