Are You Normal?

Every week I receive emails asking, “Is it normal if….?” Or, “Am I crazy if…? And so on and so forth. Fill in the blank. You get the picture. It could be anything. So, I thought I’d share some of these with readers along with my replies. If you want to know if your thoughts or behaviors are normal, send them my way.

Is it normal that I forget peoples’ names and often can’t remember where I parked my car?

Yes, it’s normal. If though it’s happening more and more then see your doctor. Make sure you’re physically OK and you’re getting all the nutrients you need. Stress can also lead to forgetfulness. Do your best to manage it and stay organized. When you meet someone repeat their name back to them. As for the car, take note of a landmark or a distinguishing feature nearby. This will serve as a cue and help you find it.

I often imagine that I’m a famous musician or actor. I’m neither of those and probably never will be. Am I delusional?

No, you’re not delusional. You’re imaginative. Fantasy offers a pleasant and exciting escape from the mundane and monotony of our predictable lives. Besides, it’s never too late to develop your musical or acting talents.

Is it normal that my cat is my best friend?

Depends. If your friendship with your cat prevents you from developing human ones, then no, it’s not normal. If though you just love your cat and find great comfort in her, that’s fine.

When I’m driving over a bridge my heart races and I feel panicky. Am I crazy?

No, you’re not crazy; you’re fearful of bridges. Your racing heart and panic feeling is your body and mind’s response to what it perceives as pending doom and danger. Take a look at your thinking – is there evidence to support your beliefs or are they more a figment of your vivid imagination? If the latter, then get back to what you know to be factual. And remember, a bridge is simply an elevated road.

Jonathan Alpert is a licensed psychotherapist. Find him on Facebook and Twitter, and look for his new book, "BE FEARLESS: Change Your Life in 28 Days," this April.